Christian wives, I have a question for you: Are you a good thing?
In Genesis 2:18, " And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." Why is a wife a good thing? Because we help meet our husbands needs. So how can wives be a good thing and help their husbands obtain favor in the Lord?
To find the answer let's take a look in Titus 2:3-5 "The aged woman likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children. To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."
A few words and phases I'd like to focus on. First, notice the word sober. Sober means to be serious minded. Wives should be serious about their home life. By home life I mean the obvious, their husband and children. In my observation, women seem to give leftover time to their husband and children instead of making them a priority. Second, the phrases "Love their husbands," and "Love their children". Love needs to fill the home. There is NOTHING that I would not do for Tom, Abby, Laney, and Micah. I love them so much I am willing to do whatever to help them succeed in their Christian life. The next two words is "Discreet" and "Chaste". "Discreet" means to hold your tongue. Don't gossip about your husband, or your children. Don't be a victim. "Chaste" means to stay faithful to your husband, in body and mind. The next phrase, "Keeper at home", is a topic of debate for some. I have read and heard it said, "It is not right for a woman to be in the work force. She is to be at home." and "She can not be a Godly woman if she is working." or the one that hurts the most, "The children are the ones that suffer because mom is working." I have seen Titus 2:3-5 be "their Bible" to back up their options. Man's option does not matter only Bible truths. Using Titus 2:3-5 to back an option, wives are suppose to stay at home, is like false religions using scripture for adding to salvation. In 2 Timothy 2:15, "Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed rightly dividing the word of truth." With that being said, I can say with full confidence that working outside the home does not make you an ungodly woman anymore than being a stay at home mom makes you a godly woman. The phrase "Keeper AT home" simply means that. Keep to your spouse and children. A home is the people not the building much like the church. It's not the building that makes a church it is the people. In these days, I find more and more wives acting selfish and spoiled. They think of their wants and needs not their family's. I've known families who suffer because Daddy is never home due to the three jobs he has to work when his wife is capable of working but refuses. That is not fulfilling your purpose as a wife. Like I stated earlier, we are to be help meets, we are to LOVE our husbands, and our children. To take time away from Father and child is cruel with no love demonstrated to either party at all. It is all done simply because she is selfish and spoiled. Keeper AT home means to spend time with your husband and children. Not to have your "girls night" or hang out with a friend feeling as if you are entitled to it.
Early in our marriage Tom was called to Pastor. It was a church of eight people. I knew his desire was to Pastor full-time. I was a full time student with no job. Finances were at the fore front of his mind. I needed to help meet my husbands financial need. I was in the work force for about nine years. Once we had our first child, I was able to be a stay at home mom for about seven years before I re-joined the working wives club. My children are eleven, nine, and five. Why did I go back to work? Love for my husband and children. Not finances, or for insurance but to fulfill a need for my Husband and Children. I work at the Christian school due to the lack of teachers available. My husband began this school with a vision. He sees it as a ministry. We have seen children in our christian school trust Christ as their Savior and lives of children changed through their christian growth, families transformed for the Glory of God. It's an amazing work! So when two of our most trusted and loved teacher moved out of state we had a need to fill. I was happy to step in to see my husband's vision carry on. I would hate to see my husband's vision close the door because I was too selfish to get off my rear and do something. My children attend the school. I would hate for them to suffer because I was so spoiled that I didn't want to give up my routine. Even though I am working wife of three children I am still considered "Keeper AT home" because I am keeping my home as my priority. Again not the building, Tom, Abby, Laney and Micah. Truth is there is less time for "me" now. I'm still cleaning house, laundry, grocery shopping, cooking to meet my families physical needs while I work at the school full time. However I'm not taking time from my husband and children. It's just from my "hobbies" that I'm taking time from. :)
I know you must think I'm defending my choice and my husband's choice for working outside the home. But I'm NOT! Nor am I giving my personal option on the subject. I'm stating a Bible truth that gets misused often. If you compare scripture with scripture you will see that it is not a sin for a woman to work outside the home. It is not harmful to the kids. It does not make a woman ungodly to work outside the home. It is God's Will for a woman to fulfill her purpose. To be that help meet to her husband. To love him and her children enough to do whatever it is that they need even if that means get a job. I've had three jobs in my lifetime. In all three jobs I have worked my hardest , been a witness, and held a good testimony; all for my Savior's name, Husband's name, and Church's name. Everything I do, I do with a mindset of the well being of my home.
I hope this was an enlightenment of the phrase "Keeper At home" and an encouragement.
Early in our marriage Tom was called to Pastor. It was a church of eight people. I knew his desire was to Pastor full-time. I was a full time student with no job. Finances were at the fore front of his mind. I needed to help meet my husbands financial need. I was in the work force for about nine years. Once we had our first child, I was able to be a stay at home mom for about seven years before I re-joined the working wives club. My children are eleven, nine, and five. Why did I go back to work? Love for my husband and children. Not finances, or for insurance but to fulfill a need for my Husband and Children. I work at the Christian school due to the lack of teachers available. My husband began this school with a vision. He sees it as a ministry. We have seen children in our christian school trust Christ as their Savior and lives of children changed through their christian growth, families transformed for the Glory of God. It's an amazing work! So when two of our most trusted and loved teacher moved out of state we had a need to fill. I was happy to step in to see my husband's vision carry on. I would hate to see my husband's vision close the door because I was too selfish to get off my rear and do something. My children attend the school. I would hate for them to suffer because I was so spoiled that I didn't want to give up my routine. Even though I am working wife of three children I am still considered "Keeper AT home" because I am keeping my home as my priority. Again not the building, Tom, Abby, Laney and Micah. Truth is there is less time for "me" now. I'm still cleaning house, laundry, grocery shopping, cooking to meet my families physical needs while I work at the school full time. However I'm not taking time from my husband and children. It's just from my "hobbies" that I'm taking time from. :)
I know you must think I'm defending my choice and my husband's choice for working outside the home. But I'm NOT! Nor am I giving my personal option on the subject. I'm stating a Bible truth that gets misused often. If you compare scripture with scripture you will see that it is not a sin for a woman to work outside the home. It is not harmful to the kids. It does not make a woman ungodly to work outside the home. It is God's Will for a woman to fulfill her purpose. To be that help meet to her husband. To love him and her children enough to do whatever it is that they need even if that means get a job. I've had three jobs in my lifetime. In all three jobs I have worked my hardest , been a witness, and held a good testimony; all for my Savior's name, Husband's name, and Church's name. Everything I do, I do with a mindset of the well being of my home.
I hope this was an enlightenment of the phrase "Keeper At home" and an encouragement.
